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Insecurities and limiting beliefs, attached to things like fear of loneliness, finances, my own sense of worth, and intelligence, had been haunting me since I was an adolescent. But I didn’t know how to deal with them. I turned to others who had navigated through these same limiting beliefs. I hope my experiences, shared honestly and with transparency, can help you along yours.
For the last several years I could tell that my eyesight was getting worse. Road signs were getting closer before I could read them. I knew the Department of Transportation wasn’t responsible for that. Three years ago I renewed my driver’s license and I had to guess at the last two lines of the eye exam. The DMV employee wasn’t paying attention to my answers and I slipped through the crack provided by a lazy employee of the state. I knew my sight was getting worse but I didn’t want to have to start dealing with the hassle of wearing glasses or contacts. I ignored my problem.
I thought marriage would save me. I believed all my problems would go away. Not just the external ones, but the internal ones too. Problems like insecurity, loneliness, and lack of love for myself. I couldn’t have been more wrong and I’m not the only one. People make this mistake all the time. Problems don’t just ‘go away’. You must deal with them.
Have you ever let someone down? Have you ever made someone feel less valued? It feels worse than locking your keys in your car, one of my monthly habits. The good news is that there is a simple and clear way to move forward. It does take some courage however. Here are three things you can do to begin repairing that relationship with the potential to make it stronger.
I see you there. You try to hide, but I can see you. It’s not easy, but with a little bit of intention I can see through the countless facades that you’ve nurtured. I like what I see in there. I wonder how much more you would shine if you would let go of the false self you cower behind, hoping not to be discovered. If you let the real you come out for air and a bit of sun. If you find the courage to poke your head out you'll find yourself amazed at what’s returned to you.
Alice’s greatest adventure began when she woke up from Wonderland. That’s when her real journey started. You don’t get a true vision of what your life can be until you start living the kind of life you want. Once you begin moving in the direction that you desire, you can begin to see further and more clearly than ever before. It’s like waking up from a dream and climbing out of the rabbit hole.
Has this ever happened to you? You find yourself in an uncomfortable situation and you are desperate for a solution. You begin talking to the people you trust in hopes of finding the answer that will solve your problem. Over the next couple of days you share your story often. But you never quite get to a solution you’re comfortable with. Then, after you’ve tied a knot at the end of your rope and deployed the death grip, the simplest answer presents itself. It’s the smallest of whispers but it packs an Ali sized right hook. It’s clear as day and it fits you perfect.
How many books have you read? Go ahead and take a guess. How many ‘How To’ videos have you watched? How many seminars have you been to? How many blogs have you subscribed to? How many podcasts have you listened to? Information that can be consumed for the sake of increased knowledge has never been more available. And yet you still have problems don’t you? Why is that?
Bill Gates won life. He became the richest man in the world doing what he loved–building a company that makes software. Yet today, he spends his time directing research and giving billions to charities that address human suffering. Bono fronts one of the most popular and enduring rock bands in the world, but uses his fame as a currency for helping the needy in developing worlds. Our world is full of stories like these, stories of people who achieved their dreams, but then started over with work that serves others.
